Using a vibrator for the first time can feel a little intimidating, but it’s not rocket science. Start slow, and have fun exploring the possibilities.
If you have any trouble getting comfortable, try incorporating lube to the mix. Fleming notes that it’s helpful for reducing friction between the toy and your body.
Choose Your Toy
A vibrator can feel like a big, new sex toy when it’s used for the first time—but it doesn’t have to be intimidating. The key is to choose a simple couples’ toy or one that is designed to work well with a woman’s body. Also, it’s important to read the instructions before using, and make sure you understand how to clean your device. It’s also a good idea to wash it before storing, as this can reduce the risk of infection and reduce lingering odors.
For example, bullet vibes are great for beginners because they’re small and discreet. They’re primarily intended for clitoral stimulation, but can be used on other parts of the body too. Then, you can move to something more elaborate as you become comfortable with it.
Vibrators can be used alone or with a partner, but it’s important to talk about the expectations and boundaries with your partner before using one. This can help avoid potential issues, such as a partner feeling uncomfortable with the toy being placed on their anal area or feeling overwhelmed by too much vibration (see Figure 1).
While most health care providers receive some sexual health education, there isn’t a lot of advice about how to advise patients about using genital vibration. This article aims to fill this gap and provides best practice recommendations that are suitable for use by clinicians, nonclinicians, sexual medicine providers, sex educators, and therapists.
Read the Instructions
Whether you’re using a vibrator with a partner or alone, it’s best to read the instructions carefully ahead of time. You’ll usually find a user manual, cleaning instructions, and even tips and tricks to enhance your experience (orgasms included).
Many sex toys come with different vibration patterns and speeds, so it’s a good idea to familiarize yourself with these options before you use the device for the first time. This way, you’ll be able to get the most out of your new toy, and you’ll know which button does what.
Vibrators are designed to stimulate various parts of the body, like the clitoris and the “G-spot,” but they can also be used to massage other erogenous zones, including the nipples, breasts, and stomach. Often, this can be a much more sensual experience than stroking with your hands, so it’s worth trying out the different settings on other body areas.
If you’re using a wand vibrator, start by putting lubricant on your clitoris and then gently gliding the toy over your clitoris and G-spot, if applicable. Using a lubricant can make the sensations of your clitoral stimulation more intense and pleasurable, and it can help reduce friction. But remember, always listen to your body and stop if you feel uncomfortable or pained. Then, you can try again later when you’re feeling more confident.
Start Slow
If you haven’t used a vibrator before, it’s best to start with a low power and basic pattern setting. You may also want to have a lubricant on hand, as this can help with comfort and the exploration of sensations.
Many sex toys will come with their own instructions, so read them! These will give you an idea of how to charge the vibe, how to turn it on and off, and what modes or settings it has. Also, don’t forget to clean your vibe regularly to avoid infections or lingering odors. Most sex toys can be cleaned with a gentle cleanser, or if you have a coupler with internal parts, a toy cleaner may work better.
Bullet vibrators, for example, are great for beginners because they’re discreet, quiet and incredibly powerful. To use one, simply apply some water-based lubricant to the end of the vibe and slip it in place against your clitoris or vulva area. You can then move it in any way that feels good to you. Some people like running it along the length of the clitoral hood or glans (head), while others prefer tapping the head or making circular motions.
Remember that what feels good with a vibrator is a matter of personal preference, and it can change depending on how relaxed or focused you are at any given time. If you’re not getting turned on, don’t force it — try again another day when you’re feeling more in the mood.
Experiment
A vibrator can be a great addition to your solo or partner-based sex life. Whether you’re using it to stimulate your clitoris or G-spot, experimenting with different types of sensation and pressure can enhance the experience. Start by gently touching a part of the body where you want to feel sensation to get an idea of what feels good. Then, gradually increase the intensity of the vibrations.
Depending on the type of toy you choose, it may require regular cleaning. You’ll also need to be sure it is fully charged. Keeping your sex toy clean can help prevent infection and ensure it’s always ready for fun.
When sex toys are used for masturbation, they can increase pleasure by releasing mood-enhancing chemicals and triggering orgasms. They can also assist with penetration by easing the muscles of the vagina and increasing natural lubrication.
While bringing a vibrator into the bedroom with a partner might seem intimidating, it’s actually a great way to discover what turns you on together. Just be sure to discuss the experience openly and communicate throughout the process. That way, your partner can learn what works best for you and your new toy, and they’ll know you trust them. You’ll also find that having a shared interest can deepen intimacy and lead to more intimate encounters.
