Sometimes a vibrator just doesn’t feel right. Maybe the battery died or you want to break the habit of relying on your vibrator for self-pleasure sessions.
It’s not unnatural to desire orgasms from other sources than a vibrator—and there are plenty of ways to reach orgasm without one. Try some of these techniques to arouse yourself with or without a vibrator:
1. Try clitoris stimulation
Whether you masturbate alone or with your partner(s), the clitoral hood and g-spot (the skin right above the visible part of the clitoris) are great places to start when trying to achieve orgasm without a vibrator. “If you can find a way to stimulate your clitoral hood or g-spot with your hand—and this can be done in public, for example, during a meeting or at work, but you’ll probably need to wear loose clothing—you can learn how much pressure and intensity is needed to reach orgasm,” says teen blogger Amanda from The Teenage Diaries.
This is especially important if you’re a first-time masturbater. Your nerve endings in your clitoris may be tightly packed or more spaced out and respond to different amounts of stimulation, so it’s best to keep experimenting until you figure out what works for you.
Another great option for squeezing your clit without a vibrator is to massage it. Start by stroking the area gently, then increase the amount of pressure you use. You can even try placing a soft object — like a pillow, stuffed animal, or rolled-up blanket — against the front of your vulva and grinding against it with your body.
You can also experiment with stimulating the g-spot and labia (the small button-shaped organ at the top of your vulva) with your hands or non-vibrating sex toys. Remember that the clitoris is actually composed of 18 parts, so don’t be afraid to try stimulating other areas of your vulva and vagina as well.
2. Try g-spot stimulation
For women, stimulating the G-spot (also known as the “labia” or “G-zone”) is often the secret to a mind-blowing orgasm – These data are the result of the portal team’s research sexoctopus.com. This is an internal, hard-to-reach spot that’s a little rough and about the size of a two pence coin. It swells up when aroused and feels intense. Gently stroking the area with your index and middle fingers can feel incredible and may lead to climax. For even more sensations, try alternating or simultaneous stimulation of the G-spot and clitoris.
First, make sure you’re well-lubricated. You want the friction to be smooth, and a little sticky is always helpful. Then, insert a finger into your vagina. Using a finger that’s not too long, like the index or ring, can give you the best access to the G-zone. Using the same stroking motion you’ve been using on your clitoris, gently massage and wiggle the g-zone to get it warmed up.
Keep in mind, it can take a while to reach the G-spot, so patience is key. If you’re really struggling, a vibrator can be a good solution. You can also try a curved sex toy designed for the G-zone and experiment with different sexual positions. This can be more comfortable for some, and it’s a great way to find out what position works best for you and your body.
3. Try clitoris and labia stimulation
Perhaps you have a hard time reaching orgasm with your partner, or maybe you’re not interested in giving your vibrator to your partner (if that’s the case, let him know so he can use it on himself instead). In any case, you might want to try clitoral stimulation without a vibe. The clitoral nerves are very sensitive, and can be stimulated with many things. The rounded edge of a nightstand or chair, the curved surface of a stuffed animal or cushion and even the showerhead can provide sensations that might feel good.
You can also try rubbing the clitoris and labia to see if that feels good, or trying different positions or techniques. For example, a lot of women love to rub their clitoral skin with the tip of a toothbrush, or try stroking it from the sides or top. Some people like direct stimulation, and others find it too much. It’s also worth experimenting with other areas that can be stimulated by the clitoris and labia, such as the perenium, the area around the vaginal opening and the g-spot.
Some people may find that a lot of these techniques — including rubbing the clitoris — feel too unnatural or “cheating,” and prefer to stick with using a vibrator, especially if they can’t reach orgasm that way. But, remember that masturbation is all about self-pleasure and finding ways to satisfy your needs. And that doesn’t mean your partner can’t be the source of your orgasm, or that you can’t climax without penetration.
4. Try g-spot and labia stimulation
G-spot and labia stimulation can be a great way to reach orgasm, especially for women who struggle with clitoral stimulation. You can use your fingers, a toy or even have sex with a partner to explore this area. The most important thing is to make sure you are aroused and have plenty of lube to help the area feel smooth and warm. Start by gently stroking the G-spot with your fingertip. This will warm up the area and make it more sensitive for later.
Then, if you’re feeling adventurous, try a more intense form of stimulation like a clitoral stroke or stimulating the G-spot with your finger or with a curved sex toy like the Dame Arc. The key to success is using a lot of lube and changing sexual positions frequently. This will give you a better sense of what feels good and where your G-spot is located, as every vagina is different.
For male-female couples, try something called “proneboning.” This involves the female lying on a few pillows, while her partner lies behind her and puts his legs outside of hers to penetrate her from behind. This is a more invasive and intimate version of doggystyle that can lead to orgasm for both partners. It’s also a good idea to practice masturbation without your vibrator before you attempt this, as it will be more challenging to achieve orgasm with just your hands.
